Orgasm, in other words the Big ‘O’ is a big mystery that is elusive for many women. Undoubtedly, orgasms make a sexual experience better, but they aren’t the be-all and end-all of sex. There’s a lot out there on orgasms—how often women are climaxing, how they prefer getting there, the time it takes them to get there, the list goes on. If you have questions about orgasms, sit back and relax because we have answers.
What is an Orgasm?
There are four phases to the sexual response cycle and orgasms are a part of the cycle. The first phase of the sexual response cycle is sexual desire ( libido), which is followed by sexual arousal (excitement).
Orgasm or climax of the sexual pleasure is the third phase. The fourth and final phase is called the resolution (relaxation), whereby all bodily functions return to normal. For example, your breathing, heart rate, muscle tension, skin sensitivity, etc.
Though it is perceived as the pinnacle of the sexual pleasure, it is NOT the end goal of sex. Sex can be good with or without the big O.
What does it feel like?
It varies from person to person. In scientific terms, it is a series of muscle contractions. But every one perceives it differently. For some, it’s a toe-curling sensation while for others it may feel like the high of finishing a marathon. According to Dr. Chand, on average, female orgasm can last up to three to 15 seconds.
Are there different types of Female Orgasm?
Women can experience the two types namely, clitoral and vaginal orgasm! There is nothing like one is better than the other. It is how your body is trained. In the end, an orgasm is an orgasm. While physiologically, they both feel the same, studies suggest that women climax faster with clitoral stimulation. The logic is simple: the clitoris has more nerve endings than the vagina. To experience the heights of sexual pleasure, your need to train your mind and body to receive it!
How can I experience it?
Women experience orgasm much lesser than men. It is suggested that exploring women’s genital anatomy more by self or partner can play a big role in achieving it. A change in pressure, rhythm, or angle can make a world of difference between pleasure and discomfort. There is, however, no fixed formula that could work universally. Paying attention to open and honest communication can play a big role in improving your sexual experience. Talk to your partner about what you like and where and how you like being touched. You must try to work with your partner to explore what appeals to you and guide them to help you!
1. Try to be relaxed during sexual encounters
2. Try a warm shower just before sex to relax your muscles
3. Lots of foreplay
4. Touchy- feely soothing massages
5. Breathing exercises to calm your nerves
6. Practice Mindfulness to help you focus on the moment
7. Talk to your partner to try different positions.
8. Be adventurous and bring in the spice!
Why focus on positive sexual health?
- Satisfying sexual life is a stress buster for many.
- You may feel more bonding with your partner as happy hormones like Oxytocin and Endorphins are released during sex.
- You may get good sleep after good sex.
- You will be burning calories during the act!
- Regular, happy sex results in healthy sexual organs and strong pelvic muscles.